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Showing posts with label marriage. Show all posts
Thursday, November 12, 2015
Saturday, October 24, 2015
Life after becoming a husband but before a father..
It is alway said that a woman has to leave her family & shift to a new place after marriage.
She has to adjust according to the customs and rules of her new family.
Very true..!!! Totally agree..!!!
But a guy also has to bear lots of responsibilities after marriage.
He is the mediator between his gf turned wifie, or if its arranged marriage than only wifie and his family.
Also he has to balance his professional, personal life with wife and the rest of his personal life.
And the biggest responsibility is to give everyone happy, whether its wife, parents, wife's parents,
his relatives, wife's relatives, his friends, wife's friends and the list is quite long...
My imagination of how life of a man is after he becomes a husband but before a father.
Take it with a pinch of humor, no offence intended...:)
Life after you are pronounced a father....coming soon :)
She has to adjust according to the customs and rules of her new family.
Very true..!!! Totally agree..!!!
But a guy also has to bear lots of responsibilities after marriage.
He is the mediator between his gf turned wifie, or if its arranged marriage than only wifie and his family.
Also he has to balance his professional, personal life with wife and the rest of his personal life.
And the biggest responsibility is to give everyone happy, whether its wife, parents, wife's parents,
his relatives, wife's relatives, his friends, wife's friends and the list is quite long...
My imagination of how life of a man is after he becomes a husband but before a father.
Take it with a pinch of humor, no offence intended...:)
Life after you are pronounced a father....coming soon :)
Sunday, September 27, 2015
When two bloggers tie the knot - Part II (A lot can happen in a bloggers meet)
As Aryan was new to Mumbai's life so it took him sometime to settle down and get acquainted with it's fast life.
Getting an accommodation near to office and finding a good foodhub or tiffin centre were the initial challenges. Though he was saved from travelling in the overcrowded local trains but travelling in local best buses too was not an easy job.
Within a month he and his friends got a 1 bhk at a reasonable price, that is what their broker said.
Broker are angel of gods who are born to help the immigrants of Mumbai by charging a very minimum amount every year, which is a month's rent for their goodwill dead.
The only good thing about the flat was the society where it was located which had some hot girls, food junctions nearby and a bus stop right infront of it.
After living in a 1200 sq feet house with your parents if you have to share a flat of half the area with 3 other people, definitely cause a lot of pain in your ass.
Most of the low profile bachelors flats in Mumbai are not only congested but also dirty, messy and broken at places and Aryan's flat was no exception.
Within a month he got settled in the new home, got a tiffin service for food and also learned how to get his foot in the best buses.
For couple of months he was more focused on his new job.
Understanding the fundamentals of the project, his team members and the manager was his initial task. He didn't face much problems as he was an intelligent soul with a jolly nature.
Soon after setting his foot in the office he was ready to explore the blogging community of Mumbai.
After exploring a lot over internet for a day he came across Indiblogger & Blogadda, two of the biggest blogging communities of India which had maximum bloggers from Mumbai.
Without wasting any time he filled all the registration formalities and waited for the approval mail.
Blogadda was quick in its process and provided the approval within a day.
Indiblogger took an approx 3-4 days to give it's nod.
So within a week Aryan was part of the biggest blogging communities of India. He was excited to meet & interact with new bloggers but at the same time a bit nervous as he was just a novice without a godfather.
It was the mid of the year 2013 and both the communities were high on contests but a bit low on blogger's meet, specially when it came to Mumbai.
Aryan tried his luck in some of them but failed to win a prize in any of them.
Though he didn't won a prize but he won the heart of some readers who left comments on his posts applauding his work.
He was not kept disappointed for a long time as Indiblogger announced the "Reliance Digital meet"
in association with Reliance Digital Stores across Mumbai, Delhi, Bangalore and other cities across India.
Aryan was on cloud 9 as this as his first bloggers meet.
The were 3-4 stores in Mumbai from which Aryan selected the one in Infinity mall, Malad.
Soon he got an invite mail from Reliance Digital to visit their store on the predecided day.
It was the meet day and Aryan was dressed up for the event.
He had interacted with few bloggers online and was excited to meet them in person.
Travelling in Mumbai locals was a pain and he was not used to it.
Mumbai local is a magical vehicle in which you can get in and get down without applying any efforts. It can make a cool, fresh and energetic person, stinky, frustrated & tired like hell.
Anyways Aryan somehow managed to reach the destination in one piece,
On reaching the Reliance Digital Store he could recognize some of the faces he had interacted online.
An hour later Aryan was part of a bloggers group which included Steve K, Vrutika Mishra, Ajay Bagaria & Abhinav Iyer to name a few.
There were lot of bloggers flowing in and out but none of them could seek his attention until he saw someone known to his group.
She wore a cute smile, had brown eyes(later Aryan came to know that she wore lenses), a figure girls die for and nice dressing sense.
Everyone went to greet her and so did Aryan.
She introduced herself as Madhvi Mishra.
Finally after clicking pics of each corner of the store when all the bloggers were satisfied that they had more pics than others to win the first price which was an iPad, the group left for lunch.
Aryan and his blogger friends found a table in McD of the mall itself to have something.
He took the corner seat and was having a conversation with Steve K when someone called his name.
Madhvi Mishra wanted to exchange places with him for no good reason was what was communicated to him.
Aryan couldn't understand the motive behind the exchange of seats but he had no option as Madhvi was craving for it like anything. He thought about her mental state and gave a second thought to the first impression he had of her.
Later in 2014 he came to know that it was because her top was small from behind,we will come to that part afterwards.
So finally when everyone was settled, Farzana H didn't like anything in McD and wanted to go somewhere else. After lot of chaos the group decided to go to a pizza parlour as suggested by Abhinav Iyer.
Ohh!! she is a non vegetarian , Aryan said to himself when he saw Madhvi eating pizza having chicken filling. A mental by mind and non veg lover, obviously not my types, Aryan gave himself a confirmation.
After lunch everyone left for their sweet home where their family was waiting for them expect for Aryan whose family was miles away.
To be Continued in Part III (Love,Lalbaugcha raja & Local Trains)
Read Part I Here
Getting an accommodation near to office and finding a good foodhub or tiffin centre were the initial challenges. Though he was saved from travelling in the overcrowded local trains but travelling in local best buses too was not an easy job.
Within a month he and his friends got a 1 bhk at a reasonable price, that is what their broker said.
Broker are angel of gods who are born to help the immigrants of Mumbai by charging a very minimum amount every year, which is a month's rent for their goodwill dead.
The only good thing about the flat was the society where it was located which had some hot girls, food junctions nearby and a bus stop right infront of it.
After living in a 1200 sq feet house with your parents if you have to share a flat of half the area with 3 other people, definitely cause a lot of pain in your ass.
Most of the low profile bachelors flats in Mumbai are not only congested but also dirty, messy and broken at places and Aryan's flat was no exception.
Within a month he got settled in the new home, got a tiffin service for food and also learned how to get his foot in the best buses.
For couple of months he was more focused on his new job.
Understanding the fundamentals of the project, his team members and the manager was his initial task. He didn't face much problems as he was an intelligent soul with a jolly nature.
Soon after setting his foot in the office he was ready to explore the blogging community of Mumbai.
After exploring a lot over internet for a day he came across Indiblogger & Blogadda, two of the biggest blogging communities of India which had maximum bloggers from Mumbai.
Without wasting any time he filled all the registration formalities and waited for the approval mail.
Blogadda was quick in its process and provided the approval within a day.
Indiblogger took an approx 3-4 days to give it's nod.
So within a week Aryan was part of the biggest blogging communities of India. He was excited to meet & interact with new bloggers but at the same time a bit nervous as he was just a novice without a godfather.
It was the mid of the year 2013 and both the communities were high on contests but a bit low on blogger's meet, specially when it came to Mumbai.
Aryan tried his luck in some of them but failed to win a prize in any of them.
Though he didn't won a prize but he won the heart of some readers who left comments on his posts applauding his work.
He was not kept disappointed for a long time as Indiblogger announced the "Reliance Digital meet"
in association with Reliance Digital Stores across Mumbai, Delhi, Bangalore and other cities across India.
Aryan was on cloud 9 as this as his first bloggers meet.
The were 3-4 stores in Mumbai from which Aryan selected the one in Infinity mall, Malad.
Soon he got an invite mail from Reliance Digital to visit their store on the predecided day.
It was the meet day and Aryan was dressed up for the event.
He had interacted with few bloggers online and was excited to meet them in person.
Travelling in Mumbai locals was a pain and he was not used to it.
Mumbai local is a magical vehicle in which you can get in and get down without applying any efforts. It can make a cool, fresh and energetic person, stinky, frustrated & tired like hell.
Anyways Aryan somehow managed to reach the destination in one piece,
On reaching the Reliance Digital Store he could recognize some of the faces he had interacted online.
An hour later Aryan was part of a bloggers group which included Steve K, Vrutika Mishra, Ajay Bagaria & Abhinav Iyer to name a few.
There were lot of bloggers flowing in and out but none of them could seek his attention until he saw someone known to his group.
She wore a cute smile, had brown eyes(later Aryan came to know that she wore lenses), a figure girls die for and nice dressing sense.
Everyone went to greet her and so did Aryan.
She introduced herself as Madhvi Mishra.
Finally after clicking pics of each corner of the store when all the bloggers were satisfied that they had more pics than others to win the first price which was an iPad, the group left for lunch.
Aryan and his blogger friends found a table in McD of the mall itself to have something.
He took the corner seat and was having a conversation with Steve K when someone called his name.
Madhvi Mishra wanted to exchange places with him for no good reason was what was communicated to him.
Aryan couldn't understand the motive behind the exchange of seats but he had no option as Madhvi was craving for it like anything. He thought about her mental state and gave a second thought to the first impression he had of her.
Later in 2014 he came to know that it was because her top was small from behind,we will come to that part afterwards.
So finally when everyone was settled, Farzana H didn't like anything in McD and wanted to go somewhere else. After lot of chaos the group decided to go to a pizza parlour as suggested by Abhinav Iyer.
Ohh!! she is a non vegetarian , Aryan said to himself when he saw Madhvi eating pizza having chicken filling. A mental by mind and non veg lover, obviously not my types, Aryan gave himself a confirmation.
After lunch everyone left for their sweet home where their family was waiting for them expect for Aryan whose family was miles away.
To be Continued in Part III (Love,Lalbaugcha raja & Local Trains)
Read Part I Here
Wednesday, September 9, 2015
When two bloggers tie the knot.. Part I (Birth of a Blogger)
Blogosphere is full of charming women. Stunning fashion bloggers making their style statement , beautiful beauty bloggers setting the latest trends, gorgeous travel bloggers taking us around the world, cute food bloggers with their lip smacking dishes and finally those charismatic personal bloggers who can talk on love and relationship like no one else.
As a male blogger I felt it and the same would hold true when a female blogger describes the opposite sex.
My intuition says that you won't feel a need to look out of the blogosphere world to find that Miss right or Mr perfect.
Bloggers are the face of a nation. They can talk on almost every topic, are the favorite of brands and the prime attraction of any event. They are stylish, trendy, popular and of course wealthy..;)
Not to forget the huge list of followers and well wishers who consider their opinions and advices
before buying anything.
When a single blogger is so powerful, imagine what can happen when they form a couple.
Aryan, a software engineer by profession also had a passion for writing from his college days.
He used to write for his college magazine and also used to scribble any random thoughts in his personal diary.
One day while coming back from college he forgot his diary in the college library.
He called Ravi, one of his friend who lived in the college hostel to collect it.
As the diary only had some poems and short stories so he was not afraid of it being read by anyone.
Ravi was on his way to meet his gf Ria, so he took the diary along with him.
Ria always loved the articles written by Aryan in the college magazine and when she came to know
that it was his diary, she couldn't resist herself from reading few pages of it.
"Aryan, I am really sorry as I read few poems and short stories from your diary but believe it when I say that you write superbly and should start a blog soon", Ria gave him her piece of advice.
Upon getting the same compliments and advices from few of his friends, he finally thought of starting a blog which he called "From My Diary" as it was the online counterpart of his offline diary.
After blogging for 3-4 months his Marwari mind came into action and he started searching for options to monetize his blog. He lived in tier -II city where blogging was not taken seriously nor encouraged.
Also it was year 2010 and at that time social media had just started evolving as a blogger's paradise.
Blogging communities, sponsored review programs and social media campaigns were in their baby stage. The most reliable option at that time was Google Adsense which was not a difficult thing to get approved as compared to the current time.
Aryan applied for the same and got his Adsense account active in just a week.
Even after a month he only had a mere $5 in his account which was way below his expectations.
Finally he decided to involve his friends also in his strategy to fool google and make some quick bucks.
A PPT was prepared and presented in front of a group of 10 people who were friends and college mates. Google Adsense , amazon affiliate program and other sites related to PPC (Pay Per Click) world were explained in it.
A decision was taken to divide the amount earned in a ratio of 60 :40.
Each friend had to click the Ads which appeared on his blog in a judicious manner.
Aryan was going to take the bigger slice while 40% was for his friends.
The strategy worked and his blog earned a whopping $50 in the second month from google adsense which was the most important source of revenue.
But things didn't went fine the other month as one of his friend who was from world's dumbest species clicked on all the Ads on his blog every hour of the day.
Soon Aryan got a mail from Google Adsense that his account was disabled because of invalid clicks activity. He tried his best to convince the Adsense people but there policy was, "Once removed you can't become a part of it again".
In those days he also realized that his marwari mind had overpowered his creative soul and made him divert from the actual cause of starting a blog.
Finally he got back on the right track and it was a great time to be there as he also got a job in Mumbai, the city of dreams.
Aryan was excited as most of the bloggers he followed were from Mumbai and also it was the top blogging hub of India.
It was now time for him to connect to other bloggers, learn from them and excel as a blogger.
But with that, time had a lot in store for him which he was unaware of !!!!!
To be Continued in Part II (A lot can happen in a blogger's meet)
As a male blogger I felt it and the same would hold true when a female blogger describes the opposite sex.
My intuition says that you won't feel a need to look out of the blogosphere world to find that Miss right or Mr perfect.
Bloggers are the face of a nation. They can talk on almost every topic, are the favorite of brands and the prime attraction of any event. They are stylish, trendy, popular and of course wealthy..;)
Not to forget the huge list of followers and well wishers who consider their opinions and advices
before buying anything.
When a single blogger is so powerful, imagine what can happen when they form a couple.
Aryan, a software engineer by profession also had a passion for writing from his college days.
He used to write for his college magazine and also used to scribble any random thoughts in his personal diary.
One day while coming back from college he forgot his diary in the college library.
He called Ravi, one of his friend who lived in the college hostel to collect it.
As the diary only had some poems and short stories so he was not afraid of it being read by anyone.
Ravi was on his way to meet his gf Ria, so he took the diary along with him.
Ria always loved the articles written by Aryan in the college magazine and when she came to know
that it was his diary, she couldn't resist herself from reading few pages of it.
"Aryan, I am really sorry as I read few poems and short stories from your diary but believe it when I say that you write superbly and should start a blog soon", Ria gave him her piece of advice.
Upon getting the same compliments and advices from few of his friends, he finally thought of starting a blog which he called "From My Diary" as it was the online counterpart of his offline diary.
After blogging for 3-4 months his Marwari mind came into action and he started searching for options to monetize his blog. He lived in tier -II city where blogging was not taken seriously nor encouraged.
Also it was year 2010 and at that time social media had just started evolving as a blogger's paradise.
Blogging communities, sponsored review programs and social media campaigns were in their baby stage. The most reliable option at that time was Google Adsense which was not a difficult thing to get approved as compared to the current time.
Aryan applied for the same and got his Adsense account active in just a week.
Even after a month he only had a mere $5 in his account which was way below his expectations.
Finally he decided to involve his friends also in his strategy to fool google and make some quick bucks.
A PPT was prepared and presented in front of a group of 10 people who were friends and college mates. Google Adsense , amazon affiliate program and other sites related to PPC (Pay Per Click) world were explained in it.
A decision was taken to divide the amount earned in a ratio of 60 :40.
Each friend had to click the Ads which appeared on his blog in a judicious manner.
Aryan was going to take the bigger slice while 40% was for his friends.
The strategy worked and his blog earned a whopping $50 in the second month from google adsense which was the most important source of revenue.
But things didn't went fine the other month as one of his friend who was from world's dumbest species clicked on all the Ads on his blog every hour of the day.
Soon Aryan got a mail from Google Adsense that his account was disabled because of invalid clicks activity. He tried his best to convince the Adsense people but there policy was, "Once removed you can't become a part of it again".
In those days he also realized that his marwari mind had overpowered his creative soul and made him divert from the actual cause of starting a blog.
Finally he got back on the right track and it was a great time to be there as he also got a job in Mumbai, the city of dreams.
Aryan was excited as most of the bloggers he followed were from Mumbai and also it was the top blogging hub of India.
It was now time for him to connect to other bloggers, learn from them and excel as a blogger.
But with that, time had a lot in store for him which he was unaware of !!!!!
To be Continued in Part II (A lot can happen in a blogger's meet)
Wednesday, December 10, 2014
Pre Marital Sex - Yes or No.
This 3 letter word is one of the most used words in English.
In India just the mention of it raises eyebrows and what not.
Yes you guessed it right, the word is "SEX".
In recent times "SEX Education" has become mandatory in lot of Indian schools and people are now openly talking about it, but safety still remains a big issue.
Today's youngsters are not afraid of what culture, society, relatives and religion will say.
They will call them "A-SANSKARI" or immoral and even give a negative character certificate but these things doesn't matter to them.
That's good, but what worry me most is they are also the blind followers.
They are attracted towards the western culture and are following it religiously but also are ignorant about the do's and dont's of it.
In and out time of a relationship has reduced to a day. One night stands and blind dates have increased considerably.
In such situations it is really important to know your limits otherwise the consequences are for life long.
So according to me Pre Martial Sex is a No.
Also I thought to confirm if my thinking matches with my friends and for that I Whatsapp them the question and to my delight 12 out of 15 said "No".
Here are the reasons for this "No" -
1. Trust and loyalty has decreased significantly. Today it is you, tomorrow you could be replaced.
So its better to save your virginity for your soulmate than a temporary jerk.
2. Blackmailing through videos and photos is a common trend now a days. Every week newspapers
are filled with news about people blackmailing their Ex after marriage threatening to make their
personal moments public. Even it is happening with many celebrities.
3. Safety while having sex has increased but still is far from the point of satisfaction.
There are lot of diseases which can spread through unsafe sex making you suffer for lifelong.
4. Boy and girl loves each other but there are high chances of their family opposing the marriage
because of caste or status differences. In many cases the emotional torture from family
becomes so intolerable that the only option left is to surrender to their stubbornness and
marry someone else.
So its better to loose virginity to someone whom you are sure to spend your life with.
5. If you have pre martial sex and marry someone else there will be always comparison which can be
dangerous for your married life.
This post is written as part of a contest YES or NO to Pre-Marital Sex on Indiblogger.
Poonaam Uppal famously known as the "Love Goddess" unravels where True love is in her latest book A Passionaate Gospel of True Love : A Mystical True Love Story.
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In India just the mention of it raises eyebrows and what not.
Yes you guessed it right, the word is "SEX".
In recent times "SEX Education" has become mandatory in lot of Indian schools and people are now openly talking about it, but safety still remains a big issue.
Today's youngsters are not afraid of what culture, society, relatives and religion will say.
They will call them "A-SANSKARI" or immoral and even give a negative character certificate but these things doesn't matter to them.
That's good, but what worry me most is they are also the blind followers.
They are attracted towards the western culture and are following it religiously but also are ignorant about the do's and dont's of it.
In and out time of a relationship has reduced to a day. One night stands and blind dates have increased considerably.
In such situations it is really important to know your limits otherwise the consequences are for life long.
So according to me Pre Martial Sex is a No.
Also I thought to confirm if my thinking matches with my friends and for that I Whatsapp them the question and to my delight 12 out of 15 said "No".
Here are the reasons for this "No" -
1. Trust and loyalty has decreased significantly. Today it is you, tomorrow you could be replaced.
So its better to save your virginity for your soulmate than a temporary jerk.
2. Blackmailing through videos and photos is a common trend now a days. Every week newspapers
are filled with news about people blackmailing their Ex after marriage threatening to make their
personal moments public. Even it is happening with many celebrities.
3. Safety while having sex has increased but still is far from the point of satisfaction.
There are lot of diseases which can spread through unsafe sex making you suffer for lifelong.
4. Boy and girl loves each other but there are high chances of their family opposing the marriage
because of caste or status differences. In many cases the emotional torture from family
becomes so intolerable that the only option left is to surrender to their stubbornness and
marry someone else.
So its better to loose virginity to someone whom you are sure to spend your life with.
5. If you have pre martial sex and marry someone else there will be always comparison which can be
dangerous for your married life.
This post is written as part of a contest YES or NO to Pre-Marital Sex on Indiblogger.
Poonaam Uppal famously known as the "Love Goddess" unravels where True love is in her latest book A Passionaate Gospel of True Love : A Mystical True Love Story.
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Saturday, September 27, 2014
Planning the Big day for Saina Nehwal
The word marriage holds a very important meaning in everyone's life.
It is not just about 7 pheras, one mangalsutra or a chutki bhar sindur but its a much more deeper connection.
Coming together of 2 souls with a promise and to be with each other in sweet and sour defines it briefly.
Saina Nehwal is one of my favorite celebrity sportsperson in India and one of my dream is to plan her wedding...
My dream came true when I won a contest organised by TOI in association with Manish Malhotra.
The ultimate prize was planning the wedding of queen of badminton world, Saina Nehwal.
I was given 10 days to do that as the wedding was on the fortnight from now.
Though I had planned wedding of many daily soap celebrities but planning this one was something big for me.She being an International sportsperson has friends all over the world so that was also a challenge.Also the theme of the wedding can't be too flashy as it was the case with TV celebrities. so I had to think of something classy and unique.
In this world where time is the biggest asset, saving every penny of it is very important.
The above phrase holds true in my case as I had only 10 days to plan the complete wedding.
I wanted one umbrella under which I could get everything.
There were so many online shopping destinations in the market but at the same time the cases of bluffing and selling fake products have also increased.
To be true I had no such tension as my companion for planning this much awaited wedding was Baggout, the one stop online destination for all your needs..:)
I had used it before and it always got me admiration.
The important categories for a me at this moment were
1. Bride Dresses
2. Bride Jewellery
3. Bridal Makeup
4. Food and Drinks
5, Accommodation & Commuting Arrangement for Guests
6. Decoration
7. Gifts for guests
Taking one at a time I started my mission "Saina ki wedding planning".
The most important thing in wedding is the bridal dresses.
There are around 5-6 times in the span of 2 days that a bride needs to change her dress.
The first ceremony is engagement and I planned to buy a beautiful gown for Saina.
Next was the Sangeet ceremony and for this I bought a beautiful saree for her.
The next day we have the Mayara ceremony and for that I decided to give Saina a different look with another designer saree.
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The last two most important ceremonies are Reception and Feeras.
For reception I bought a beautiful Lehenga for her.
And for Feeras I wanted to simple it simple, not much heavy but stylish. So I went for a designer Salwar kameez.
All the dresses were brought from Jabong where I got 6% cashback.
Next category was the Bridal Jewellery
Diamonds are a woman's best friend and I wanted something which can match with the glow, beauty and charm of Saina so I went for diamonds.
For Engagement I purchased a beautiful diamond ring and a diamond set containing necklace and earrings. Necklace was my favorite of all three.
For Sangeet I purchased another beautiful set with Ruby embedded in it.
For Mayara I went for something traditional and when it is traditional it is always gold.
I bought a beautiful necklace from Jewelskart
Reception is where a girl can flaunt the most and I wanted to leave no stone unturned.
So I bought a very beautiful and stylish diamond necklace for her which could fill her neck and make her look even more gorgeous.
All the diamond jewellery was brought from Surat Diamond Jewellery where I got 10.5% cashback.
For Bridal makeup I choose the most famous make up artist of the town who had done make up of many TV celebrities.
Now as I had taken care of the Bride needs it was time to serve the guests and the most important thing for them is Food and Drinks.
Though I had booked a very famous caterer for the same but as there were many foreign guests also so I decided to order some Pizzas and drinks too.
Baggout had solution for it in the form of FoodPanda and Coke2Home. I quickly placed an order for the same.
Next was the accommodation and commutation arrangement.
As the guests were royal so they had to be given royal treatment.
Hence I choose Courtyard Marriott which was also near to the airport.
Thanks to Hotels.com I got 6% cashback on it.
Commutation was also managed by them.
Penultimate category was decoration.
A marriage is known by the unique and artistic beautification that charms the eyes of beholder.
It is the first thing that a person notices and I had to keep it nothing less than awesome.
So I choose FlowerAura which also gave me 11.25% cashback.
Last category which is liked by everyone is gifts.
People also remember a marriage by the gifts that are given and I wanted to make it special so I decided to give everyone Badminton Racquets signed by Saina Nehwal.
I ordered the stuff from PlantSportOnline which gave me an impressive cashback.
I also had a special surprise for Saina.
For that I ordered a Big Greeting Card from Archies where all guests were going to pen down their wishes for the couple.
I was finally happy and satisfied with my arrangements and was now eagerly waiting for the Big Day to arrive..:)
This post is written for a contest organised by Baggout.
It is not just about 7 pheras, one mangalsutra or a chutki bhar sindur but its a much more deeper connection.
Coming together of 2 souls with a promise and to be with each other in sweet and sour defines it briefly.
Saina Nehwal is one of my favorite celebrity sportsperson in India and one of my dream is to plan her wedding...
My dream came true when I won a contest organised by TOI in association with Manish Malhotra.
The ultimate prize was planning the wedding of queen of badminton world, Saina Nehwal.
I was given 10 days to do that as the wedding was on the fortnight from now.
Though I had planned wedding of many daily soap celebrities but planning this one was something big for me.She being an International sportsperson has friends all over the world so that was also a challenge.Also the theme of the wedding can't be too flashy as it was the case with TV celebrities. so I had to think of something classy and unique.
In this world where time is the biggest asset, saving every penny of it is very important.
The above phrase holds true in my case as I had only 10 days to plan the complete wedding.
I wanted one umbrella under which I could get everything.
There were so many online shopping destinations in the market but at the same time the cases of bluffing and selling fake products have also increased.
To be true I had no such tension as my companion for planning this much awaited wedding was Baggout, the one stop online destination for all your needs..:)
I had used it before and it always got me admiration.
The important categories for a me at this moment were
1. Bride Dresses
2. Bride Jewellery
3. Bridal Makeup
4. Food and Drinks
5, Accommodation & Commuting Arrangement for Guests
6. Decoration
7. Gifts for guests
Taking one at a time I started my mission "Saina ki wedding planning".
The most important thing in wedding is the bridal dresses.
There are around 5-6 times in the span of 2 days that a bride needs to change her dress.
The first ceremony is engagement and I planned to buy a beautiful gown for Saina.
Next was the Sangeet ceremony and for this I bought a beautiful saree for her.
The next day we have the Mayara ceremony and for that I decided to give Saina a different look with another designer saree.
The last two most important ceremonies are Reception and Feeras.
For reception I bought a beautiful Lehenga for her.
And for Feeras I wanted to simple it simple, not much heavy but stylish. So I went for a designer Salwar kameez.
All the dresses were brought from Jabong where I got 6% cashback.
Next category was the Bridal Jewellery
Diamonds are a woman's best friend and I wanted something which can match with the glow, beauty and charm of Saina so I went for diamonds.
For Engagement I purchased a beautiful diamond ring and a diamond set containing necklace and earrings. Necklace was my favorite of all three.
For Sangeet I purchased another beautiful set with Ruby embedded in it.
For Mayara I went for something traditional and when it is traditional it is always gold.
I bought a beautiful necklace from Jewelskart
Reception is where a girl can flaunt the most and I wanted to leave no stone unturned.
So I bought a very beautiful and stylish diamond necklace for her which could fill her neck and make her look even more gorgeous.
All the diamond jewellery was brought from Surat Diamond Jewellery where I got 10.5% cashback.
For Bridal makeup I choose the most famous make up artist of the town who had done make up of many TV celebrities.
Now as I had taken care of the Bride needs it was time to serve the guests and the most important thing for them is Food and Drinks.
Though I had booked a very famous caterer for the same but as there were many foreign guests also so I decided to order some Pizzas and drinks too.
Baggout had solution for it in the form of FoodPanda and Coke2Home. I quickly placed an order for the same.
Next was the accommodation and commutation arrangement.
As the guests were royal so they had to be given royal treatment.
Hence I choose Courtyard Marriott which was also near to the airport.
Thanks to Hotels.com I got 6% cashback on it.
Commutation was also managed by them.
Penultimate category was decoration.
A marriage is known by the unique and artistic beautification that charms the eyes of beholder.
It is the first thing that a person notices and I had to keep it nothing less than awesome.
So I choose FlowerAura which also gave me 11.25% cashback.
Last category which is liked by everyone is gifts.
People also remember a marriage by the gifts that are given and I wanted to make it special so I decided to give everyone Badminton Racquets signed by Saina Nehwal.
I ordered the stuff from PlantSportOnline which gave me an impressive cashback.
I also had a special surprise for Saina.
For that I ordered a Big Greeting Card from Archies where all guests were going to pen down their wishes for the couple.
I was finally happy and satisfied with my arrangements and was now eagerly waiting for the Big Day to arrive..:)
This post is written for a contest organised by Baggout.
Tuesday, April 29, 2014
Review of 2 States movie
She was insisting me to watch this movie from a long time as it was quite similar to our love story.
Though I am still to face her Hitler Dad who checks the payslip first and her mom who wants a cloned Alok Nath as her son-in-law, but it was quite a preparation.
And not to forget that my love story is no less spicy then that of Chetan Bhagat but that I will keep for someday later..;)
So coming back to the movie. These days a new trend is seen in Bollywood, where a popular piece of literature is been adopted into screenplays.
Chetan Bhagat's books have appalled the youth of India to a great extent. In the past his work like "five point someone" and "three mistakes of my life" when adapted on screen went out to be huge hits.
As I had read 2 States so was already aware about the story but how the real life is presented in the reel life was what excited me.Also as someone special was with me so the excitement increased manifold.
2 states was Chetan's best seller and its adaptation had great expectations. Does it manages to live upto the expectation, let's find out.
Unlike 3 idiots and Kai Po Che, 2 States is 100% adaptation of the book.
The movie revolves around Punjabi Munda Krish and beautiful Madarasan Ananya who meet each other at IIM A. Ananya with 22 proposals from IITians feels the same for every other. Krish protest against her attitude and this marks the beginning of their story.
Krish finally confesses that he can't just be a friend and Ananya rewards this with a kiss.
Love finds way into their life and a spicy romance starts on the campus. After having the fun the couple finally decide to commit and take their relationship forward.
But in India marriage is not only about the girl and boy is what they realize soon.
They decide to make their parents meet on their convocation which turns out to be a nightmare.
For a second I could see my parents meeting with those of my GF just to give me a heart attack.
Thanx to my GF who pinched me at the right time otherwise I was about to see World War 3.
Nwys back to the story, after the convocation the story embarks upon the journey of couple convincing each other's parents which is full of drama, humor and at last happy ending.
2 States is full on masala movie which has all the ingredients to make it a hit.
Though there are no such moments which pulls you out of the chair but it perfectly fulfills all the expectations that you have after reading the book. Also the music is rocking and good to ears which is an added bonus.
Shy & geek looking Arjun Kapoor does complete judgement to his character. Though it is tough for him to be in such avatar seeing his previous performances but he perfectly lends the required softness.
Amrita Singh is superb as the bold Punjabi mom who delivers the funniest liners of the movie with full composure.
Ronit Roy gives a powerful performance he is know for.
But it is Alia Bhatt who is the focus of the movie. Yet another superb performance after Highway.
Her beauty, innocence & vivacious personality brings life to the character of Ananya. Her refreshing looks and natural acting add to the charm of every scene.
Overall the movie is a good entertainment, a one time watch for sure..\m/
Rating -:
Though I am still to face her Hitler Dad who checks the payslip first and her mom who wants a cloned Alok Nath as her son-in-law, but it was quite a preparation.
And not to forget that my love story is no less spicy then that of Chetan Bhagat but that I will keep for someday later..;)
So coming back to the movie. These days a new trend is seen in Bollywood, where a popular piece of literature is been adopted into screenplays.
Chetan Bhagat's books have appalled the youth of India to a great extent. In the past his work like "five point someone" and "three mistakes of my life" when adapted on screen went out to be huge hits.
As I had read 2 States so was already aware about the story but how the real life is presented in the reel life was what excited me.Also as someone special was with me so the excitement increased manifold.
2 states was Chetan's best seller and its adaptation had great expectations. Does it manages to live upto the expectation, let's find out.
Unlike 3 idiots and Kai Po Che, 2 States is 100% adaptation of the book.
The movie revolves around Punjabi Munda Krish and beautiful Madarasan Ananya who meet each other at IIM A. Ananya with 22 proposals from IITians feels the same for every other. Krish protest against her attitude and this marks the beginning of their story.
Krish finally confesses that he can't just be a friend and Ananya rewards this with a kiss.
Love finds way into their life and a spicy romance starts on the campus. After having the fun the couple finally decide to commit and take their relationship forward.
But in India marriage is not only about the girl and boy is what they realize soon.
They decide to make their parents meet on their convocation which turns out to be a nightmare.
For a second I could see my parents meeting with those of my GF just to give me a heart attack.
Thanx to my GF who pinched me at the right time otherwise I was about to see World War 3.
Nwys back to the story, after the convocation the story embarks upon the journey of couple convincing each other's parents which is full of drama, humor and at last happy ending.
2 States is full on masala movie which has all the ingredients to make it a hit.
Though there are no such moments which pulls you out of the chair but it perfectly fulfills all the expectations that you have after reading the book. Also the music is rocking and good to ears which is an added bonus.
Shy & geek looking Arjun Kapoor does complete judgement to his character. Though it is tough for him to be in such avatar seeing his previous performances but he perfectly lends the required softness.
Amrita Singh is superb as the bold Punjabi mom who delivers the funniest liners of the movie with full composure.
Ronit Roy gives a powerful performance he is know for.
But it is Alia Bhatt who is the focus of the movie. Yet another superb performance after Highway.
Her beauty, innocence & vivacious personality brings life to the character of Ananya. Her refreshing looks and natural acting add to the charm of every scene.
Overall the movie is a good entertainment, a one time watch for sure..\m/
Rating -:
Saturday, April 26, 2014
What if you are 25 and don't have a GF..??
GF is an entity that changes your life.
If you are fortunate enough to find a good one then she makes your life heaven but the other one is also important as she will leave you with long credit card bills, sleepless nights and not to forget a lesson of lifetime.
But what if you are 25, an age when parents start looking for a suitable bride and you don't have someone special in life. Not to forget when you are afraid of arranged marriage,it really gets difficult.
Relationships which are childhood love, school love or college first year love have 90% probability of being successful, but I was unfortunate to find one.
Its not that I didn't try, I tried my heart out, but either I was not satisfied or she.
During school time peer pressure starts from 8th class, not only peer pressure also Parents pressure.
They except you to top the merit , but don't understand that it is also the time when lot of hormone locha happens inside your body.
You start finding girls pretty. The opposite sex attracts you more than anything.
Next comes NTSE. If you get scholarship here, IIT coaching classes will teach you for free.
Also your name will come into newspaper which everyone wants one day.
So again the mind wants you to study but heart wants just the opposite.
It is ready to fall for someone, go mad in love, create new historic love stories.
10th Board is like a war, where your parents, teachers and even friends knowing that you are a small Srilanka will expect you to beat America.
Finally when you feel that now you can relax and go out fishing, parents ring the Career Alert bell.
You are shown the dream of getting into an IIT by coaching institutes and you happily agree to get bluffed.
It's not that coaching institutes are only for studies, many students come for mate matching also.
Fortunately girls here consider you a part of intellectual group and try to come closer.
They call you to parties but for you it is senseless and waste of time as the bhoot of IIT is still big on the head.
Finally the results are out and you don't get an IIT but a decent college.
Now that you are sure that everything is set, you feel it's the right and high time to fall in love.
But where are all the pretty girls gone ?
99% girls are beautiful and rest 1% are my batchmates looks so true and real.
Though there are some charming faces but they demand a high intellect combined with big bikes and even bigger wallets.
Then there are those average looking, only 4-5 times proposed girls who will fall for singing skills, guitar skills and in my case dancing skills.
You think she is the one, your love, your everything but she leaves you in few months, stating it as just an infatuation and nothing else.
Then there is that one girl who will love you like anything. She will always feel jealous when you are with other girl. She will take care of you like a mother, but you won't get satisfied by all this.
Because for you a person has not to be only loving and caring but also interesting and witty to be a partner.
She loves you relentlessly and you finally think of giving it a try.
Well it feels good for few days but then you feel like changing many things.
You tend to give her lectures on almost everything and then follows 24*7 fighting, calling mutual friends and troubleshooting.
Finally when everyone gives up, your relationship comes to a miserable end breaking her heart.
A lesson learnt but after paying a heavy price of losing your best friend.
You take a pledge not to get into relationship with a girl who is not of your type, just to break it in few months.
Internet friends are so common these days and also internet love.
You feel low and lonely after the breakup and make your way to the big virtual world.
After few days you find someone interesting. She seems to be the perfect one, loving, caring, intellectual and also witty. You take no time in falling for her. The first few meets are so amazing that you feel like introducing her to your family, but her different caste factor always keep haunting you.
Few months pass and you tend to feel the difference between virtual and the real world.
The girl who always had time for you on the virtual world, unfortunately can't find much in her real world. She tends to give excuses and things get bitter.
You give your relationship another chance with an optimistic hope of she finding time for you.
But things get really worst when she is not even able to meet you on your birthday.
You don't have any other option then break-up.
Cooperate world beckons and you get yourself immersed into work just to forget her.
Again you take a pledge that you will only think of a girl if she is of your caste as this is your last time and you don't want a World War 3 with your parents.
When you are on the verge of getting great opportunities, she enters your life.
She is of your caste, have great looks, is witty, creative and above all matches your height perfectly.
What more can you urge for ?
You try all the tricks in the world to impress her but this time your love line shows a full stop.
You are being ignored as if you don't even exist.
She gets into an IIM and you are stuck at the same place, also losing those knocking opportunities.
Now you are 25. Parents wants to get you married soon.
Your father's father and mother's mother emotionally blackmail's you every time you talk to them.
Friends are getting married to their long term GF's and when you tell them your desire of having a love marriage, they will infinitely mock at your single status.
Watched 2 states and felt like waiting for some more time, but how long...????
Do you have an answer ? Feel free to suggest..;)
If you are fortunate enough to find a good one then she makes your life heaven but the other one is also important as she will leave you with long credit card bills, sleepless nights and not to forget a lesson of lifetime.
But what if you are 25, an age when parents start looking for a suitable bride and you don't have someone special in life. Not to forget when you are afraid of arranged marriage,it really gets difficult.
Relationships which are childhood love, school love or college first year love have 90% probability of being successful, but I was unfortunate to find one.
Its not that I didn't try, I tried my heart out, but either I was not satisfied or she.
During school time peer pressure starts from 8th class, not only peer pressure also Parents pressure.
They except you to top the merit , but don't understand that it is also the time when lot of hormone locha happens inside your body.
You start finding girls pretty. The opposite sex attracts you more than anything.
Next comes NTSE. If you get scholarship here, IIT coaching classes will teach you for free.
Also your name will come into newspaper which everyone wants one day.
So again the mind wants you to study but heart wants just the opposite.
It is ready to fall for someone, go mad in love, create new historic love stories.
10th Board is like a war, where your parents, teachers and even friends knowing that you are a small Srilanka will expect you to beat America.
Finally when you feel that now you can relax and go out fishing, parents ring the Career Alert bell.
You are shown the dream of getting into an IIT by coaching institutes and you happily agree to get bluffed.
It's not that coaching institutes are only for studies, many students come for mate matching also.
Fortunately girls here consider you a part of intellectual group and try to come closer.
They call you to parties but for you it is senseless and waste of time as the bhoot of IIT is still big on the head.
Finally the results are out and you don't get an IIT but a decent college.
Now that you are sure that everything is set, you feel it's the right and high time to fall in love.
But where are all the pretty girls gone ?
99% girls are beautiful and rest 1% are my batchmates looks so true and real.
Though there are some charming faces but they demand a high intellect combined with big bikes and even bigger wallets.
Then there are those average looking, only 4-5 times proposed girls who will fall for singing skills, guitar skills and in my case dancing skills.
You think she is the one, your love, your everything but she leaves you in few months, stating it as just an infatuation and nothing else.
Then there is that one girl who will love you like anything. She will always feel jealous when you are with other girl. She will take care of you like a mother, but you won't get satisfied by all this.
Because for you a person has not to be only loving and caring but also interesting and witty to be a partner.
She loves you relentlessly and you finally think of giving it a try.
Well it feels good for few days but then you feel like changing many things.
You tend to give her lectures on almost everything and then follows 24*7 fighting, calling mutual friends and troubleshooting.
Finally when everyone gives up, your relationship comes to a miserable end breaking her heart.
A lesson learnt but after paying a heavy price of losing your best friend.
You take a pledge not to get into relationship with a girl who is not of your type, just to break it in few months.
Internet friends are so common these days and also internet love.
You feel low and lonely after the breakup and make your way to the big virtual world.
After few days you find someone interesting. She seems to be the perfect one, loving, caring, intellectual and also witty. You take no time in falling for her. The first few meets are so amazing that you feel like introducing her to your family, but her different caste factor always keep haunting you.
Few months pass and you tend to feel the difference between virtual and the real world.
The girl who always had time for you on the virtual world, unfortunately can't find much in her real world. She tends to give excuses and things get bitter.
You give your relationship another chance with an optimistic hope of she finding time for you.
But things get really worst when she is not even able to meet you on your birthday.
You don't have any other option then break-up.
Cooperate world beckons and you get yourself immersed into work just to forget her.
Again you take a pledge that you will only think of a girl if she is of your caste as this is your last time and you don't want a World War 3 with your parents.
When you are on the verge of getting great opportunities, she enters your life.
She is of your caste, have great looks, is witty, creative and above all matches your height perfectly.
What more can you urge for ?
You try all the tricks in the world to impress her but this time your love line shows a full stop.
You are being ignored as if you don't even exist.
She gets into an IIM and you are stuck at the same place, also losing those knocking opportunities.
Now you are 25. Parents wants to get you married soon.
Your father's father and mother's mother emotionally blackmail's you every time you talk to them.
Friends are getting married to their long term GF's and when you tell them your desire of having a love marriage, they will infinitely mock at your single status.
Watched 2 states and felt like waiting for some more time, but how long...????
Do you have an answer ? Feel free to suggest..;)
Monday, May 20, 2013
Until Death Do Us Apart
I and Palak were happily married for last 5 years.
We were in the same dance group of our college and fortunately partners.
Both of us were good dancers and had a great chemistry together.
Slowly how this dance steps also moved our heart beats, how this dance chemistry also spiced up the real chemistry of our life, we didn't realize.
I proposed her the very moment after our performance and she said yes..:)
She was a caring mother and loving wife. But last 6 months had changed my life drastically.
It was Rhea who came in my life and did the damage. She had stolen my heart which always used to beat for Palak. Now I was hers.
Rhea and I had fixed our date of marriage and it was time to tell Palak about it.
I decided to tell her everything on dinner.
We were in the same dance group of our college and fortunately partners.
Both of us were good dancers and had a great chemistry together.
Slowly how this dance steps also moved our heart beats, how this dance chemistry also spiced up the real chemistry of our life, we didn't realize.
I proposed her the very moment after our performance and she said yes..:)
She was a caring mother and loving wife. But last 6 months had changed my life drastically.
It was Rhea who came in my life and did the damage. She had stolen my heart which always used to beat for Palak. Now I was hers.
Rhea and I had fixed our date of marriage and it was time to tell Palak about it.
I decided to tell her everything on dinner.
When I reached home, she was sitting on the dinner table.
I came closer to her and said, I have something to tell you.
She sat down and waited for me to start. I could see the pain in her eyes as if she knew what was coming.
Last 6 months were like hell for our relationship. We were never intimate, never kissed each other,
forget about having sex.
I came closer to her and said, I have something to tell you.
She sat down and waited for me to start. I could see the pain in her eyes as if she knew what was coming.
Last 6 months were like hell for our relationship. We were never intimate, never kissed each other,
forget about having sex.
Suddenly I lost my tongue. I was not able to speak a word.
I wanted to let her know that I wanted divorce but didn't know how to open my mouth.
With all my power I raised the topic calmly.
I wanted to let her know that I wanted divorce but didn't know how to open my mouth.
With all my power I raised the topic calmly.
She was not agitated by my words, instead she just asked me politely, Why?
I tried to overlook the question which made her furious. At once she picked a spoon and threw at me which struck right above my right eye. Are u crazy, I said. Her response was “Go to hell". We didn't talk for couple of days.
She kept weeping the whole day. What was her fault,
what wrong has happened to our marriage,was only what she wanted to know. I was in no position to tell her that I have lost my heart to Rhea and didn't love her anymore
Now there was nothing else than a divorce agreement which could convey my words to her. I drafted one which stated that my wife was the owner of our 2 bungalows, 1 farmhouse and 50%
stake in my company.
Next day I gave it to her in the morning. She glanced at it
and tore it to pieces. Her eyes were
like ocean full of pain and finally she cried badly in front of me. I was the one
responsible for all those tears. Every tear had just one question why are u
making me a stranger, throwing me out of your life, what’s my mistake?
When I came from office she gave me a page which had some points
written on it.
She had agreed for a divorce but there were few conditions.
1. I have to give a month notice before divorce date.
2. For that month we will try to live a normal life as possible
I agreed to both of them but there was a one more.
After coming from office I will dance with her for half an hour on the same songs and music that we used to in our college days.`
She had agreed for a divorce but there were few conditions.
1. I have to give a month notice before divorce date.
2. For that month we will try to live a normal life as possible
I agreed to both of them but there was a one more.
After coming from office I will dance with her for half an hour on the same songs and music that we used to in our college days.`
I agreed to her crazy condition, though I was usually very
tired after coming from office but it was just matter of a month and I wanted
to end it peacefully.
When I came from office it was all set, the music, the ambiance everything for a perfect salsa.
It was salsa which had brought us together during the college days.
As the music started we took our pose and the salsa started.
Our daughter was so happy to see us dancing. She too got involved.
It was awkward for both of us to do salsa after so many years that too at this point of life.
It also involved lifts, stunts and aerial work, the moves that called for intimacy and chemistry.
First day we managed to finish it but with lot of clumsiness.
It was salsa which had brought us together during the college days.
As the music started we took our pose and the salsa started.
Our daughter was so happy to see us dancing. She too got involved.
It was awkward for both of us to do salsa after so many years that too at this point of life.
It also involved lifts, stunts and aerial work, the moves that called for intimacy and chemistry.
First day we managed to finish it but with lot of clumsiness.
Next day it was a bit normal.
I managed to get the moves correctly. There were moments when I had a closer look at her.
There were signs of aging, dark spots and wrinkles.
5 years back when I practiced the same move she was a divine beauty, flawless and fresh.
Our marriage had a toll on her. She had faded and I didn't even have the time to look at her.
I managed to get the moves correctly. There were moments when I had a closer look at her.
There were signs of aging, dark spots and wrinkles.
5 years back when I practiced the same move she was a divine beauty, flawless and fresh.
Our marriage had a toll on her. She had faded and I didn't even have the time to look at her.
One week passed away and our sense of intimacy was growing
again.
I was able to recall those old golden days, the most beautiful moments of my life.
But one thing that was striking my mind was her health. While doing the lifts and
aerial work I felt her to be much lighter and thinner. She had lost a lot of weight.
I was able to recall those old golden days, the most beautiful moments of my life.
But one thing that was striking my mind was her health. While doing the lifts and
aerial work I felt her to be much lighter and thinner. She had lost a lot of weight.
On our last day when our daughter went to sleep, I played
the music.
With the first move I could feel her. At every step, on every lift she came closer to me.
The buried feelings, emotions and intimacy had finally erupted out.
At the end I held her tight in my arms and said, Will you be my salsa partner for life long.
She had tears in her eyes. It was the first time after 6 long months that we kissed each other, but not this passionately any time before.
With the first move I could feel her. At every step, on every lift she came closer to me.
The buried feelings, emotions and intimacy had finally erupted out.
At the end I held her tight in my arms and said, Will you be my salsa partner for life long.
She had tears in her eyes. It was the first time after 6 long months that we kissed each other, but not this passionately any time before.
Next day I drove my way to office and called Rhea in my
cabin.
I told her that, I wanted my marriage to work and I still love Palak the same way I used to love her
5 years before.
I am really sorry but I don’t want this divorce.
Rhea was astonished. She gave me water and asked me if I was fine.
I told her that I was in my complete senses. The main thing which was missing in our marriage was
the value of each other, the charm, and the intimacy.
We have found that back and now only death can do us apart.
I told her that, I wanted my marriage to work and I still love Palak the same way I used to love her
5 years before.
I am really sorry but I don’t want this divorce.
Rhea was astonished. She gave me water and asked me if I was fine.
I told her that I was in my complete senses. The main thing which was missing in our marriage was
the value of each other, the charm, and the intimacy.
We have found that back and now only death can do us apart.
She slapped me hard. I knew this was
coming. She slammed the door and went
away. I wasted no time and came back to home.
Today was a big day for me. I was going to propose her in
the same way I did 5 years back.
Everything was set on the beach. A small white color four pillared tent which was embellished with heart shaped Lamps, 1 at each corner and a big red one in the middle. Inside the tent there was a beautiful table and 2 chairs decorated with flowers. The music was on.
Today I was going to do the best salsa I knew.
Everything was set on the beach. A small white color four pillared tent which was embellished with heart shaped Lamps, 1 at each corner and a big red one in the middle. Inside the tent there was a beautiful table and 2 chairs decorated with flowers. The music was on.
Today I was going to do the best salsa I knew.
When I reached home she was dressed in the best attire she
had. Suddenly she looked the most
beautiful woman I have ever seen in my life.
We drove to the beach area where I have done all the arrangements.
She was overwhelmed with joy after seeing it. Without wasting a single moment I played the music as it was time for some salsa baby.
It was our first lift and she collapsed in my arms. Suddenly the world came to a halt.
I couldn't feel her pulse. I was devastated.
beautiful woman I have ever seen in my life.
We drove to the beach area where I have done all the arrangements.
She was overwhelmed with joy after seeing it. Without wasting a single moment I played the music as it was time for some salsa baby.
It was our first lift and she collapsed in my arms. Suddenly the world came to a halt.
I couldn't feel her pulse. I was devastated.
“She is suffering from cancer from past few months. We can’t
say anything till next 24 hours”, the
Doctor said. I was shocked. It was like there was no blood in my body.
In last few months I had noticed that her health was deteriorating but I ignored it as I was too busy in my life with Rhea. How selfish was I to ignore those warning signs. I was feeling guilty for what all has happened to her. It was all my fault.
Doctor said. I was shocked. It was like there was no blood in my body.
In last few months I had noticed that her health was deteriorating but I ignored it as I was too busy in my life with Rhea. How selfish was I to ignore those warning signs. I was feeling guilty for what all has happened to her. It was all my fault.
She remained unconscious the next complete day. I prayed the
whole day only to see her smile back.
It was around 4 a.m. in the morning when doctor came out and told me that she had come to her senses again but there is also a bad news. She won’t be able to become a mother again.
I was tore apart. She always said that we will have 2 children, a son and a daughter. From last 8 months she was telling me that I was the right time to have their 2nd child but the blind me ignored it completely.
It was around 4 a.m. in the morning when doctor came out and told me that she had come to her senses again but there is also a bad news. She won’t be able to become a mother again.
I was tore apart. She always said that we will have 2 children, a son and a daughter. From last 8 months she was telling me that I was the right time to have their 2nd child but the blind me ignored it completely.
When I went in I took her hand and cried like a child. She
said she was fine and won’t trouble me more. I asked her, why she let all this
happen to her. Why did she ignore the
signs?
She politely said, “From last 8 months every moment she was busy to make their marriage work.
There was no time in her life for herself, her body. Though sometimes she felt lot of pain and fatigue. But she ignored them as they had now become part of her life.
She politely said, “From last 8 months every moment she was busy to make their marriage work.
There was no time in her life for herself, her body. Though sometimes she felt lot of pain and fatigue. But she ignored them as they had now become part of her life.
I hugged her tightly and thanked god for giving me my life
back, my wonderful wife Palak.
Moral of the Story
There are 2 morals of this story
Don’t
ignore signs in form of drastic weight loss or body deterioration. You might
think
It’s normal because you are going through a
bad phase as in this story it was bad marriage.
But remember it can turn out to be
something really worst.
It’s not flashy gifts, bungalow or money
that gives happiness in a relationship. It is those little
things that you do for each other which build intimacy.
things that you do for each other which build intimacy.
Wednesday, August 29, 2012
5 Artists, one topic, Love Marriage VS Arrange Marriage
Fortunately 15th August was on Wednesday,so I took 2 days vacations before that and went home after a long time.
It was Friday and I was waiting at Borivali station(Mumbai) for Avantika express, one of the very few trains to Indore.
Train was right on time. My Seat no was 29 in S6 compartment. There were 3 guys and 2 gals , all looking young,in their 20's.
As the journey started we had a brief introduction and I was surprised and the same time excited to find a pool of artists around me.
Among the 2 gals one was a painter and other a poet
Boys had a variety too with one a school teacher from village.
Other was a software developer from TCS and last one was a Cartoonist.
I took out my mobile and started browsing net. When I opened Indiblogger site, a new contest was flashing on the home page. Love Marriage VS Arrange Marriage.
A very interesting and common topic indeed. My grey cells starting working and I came up with an idea. Lets have a contest guys. I have a topic, a very common one, which is Love Marriage VS Arrange Marriage. You have to express your opinion on it in ur own artistic way. I have a surprise gift for the person who comes out to be the most creative and artistic in his approach.
After 1 hour everyone was ready and it was time to start.
Girls insisted to start first so I decided to go with the younger of the two, the Poet.
She was a die hard supporter of Love Marriages and always dreamed of one.
Her poem strongly supported her take on the topic
Love marriage is the way,
To enjoy the the life all way long..
It gives the music,
to our life's boring song..
It gives color to life's painting..
And if you are lucky to have love marriage,
life will definitely have happy ending..
The pair know each other well,
before they are going to be husband and wife..
It gives bonding,it gives affection,
and gives understanding,throughout their life..
Whenever we will be besiege by problems of life..
Only the true love will be our saver..
So if u find true love in someone's eyes..
Make that one as your life partner..forever..:))
The painter being an arranged marriage supporter wasted no time to give her opponent "The Poet"
a strong reply with her creations.
She portrayed 2 scenarios
1. Before Love Marriage only Love
2. After Love Marriage where is Love
Scenario 1
Before Love Marriage
After Love Marriage
Scenario 2
Before Love Marriage
After Love Marriage
Scenario 3
Before Love Marriage
After Love Marriage
Mickey to Minnie- Where is my tea it's already 7..
So from her pictures it was clear that in love marriages there were 2 scenarios BEFORE and AFTER. Before one shows that couples are really happy but problem comes when they are married i.e. the AFTER part. In after part you are always compared to the person you were before marriage in-spite of the fact that now you not only have new responsibilities but you also need to give equal time to your family.You are burdened with all those expectations which your partner had from you before marriage without considering the fact that now priorities are been changed.
Seeing the pics poet got angry and started arguing with the painter. Atmosphere got heated up quickly and everyone could feel it.
Feeling a chance of a cat fight, I quickly intervened and asked the opposite sex to keep up with
their views..
As Cartoonist was the most enthusiastic of the lot, I asked him to lead the boy's front with his humorous cartoons..
His cartoons depicted that neither he was standing in favour of Love Marriages nor Arrange Marriages.
According to him Marriage was a three ring circus..engagement ring, wedding ring and suffering.
After marriage, husband and wife become two sides of a coin; they just can’t face each other, but still they stay together.Even there are lot of problems between the girl and her in-laws.
Single is the best status anyone can have on Facebook, he declared...:P
Seeing the talks getting a bit on the heavier side, with eyebrows raising and fists been clenched, Software developer came up with his witty Technical Description of both the marriages to stop the bickering ,drive away the clouds of animosity and make the atmosphere a bit lighter..
| Love Marriage | Arranged Marriage |
| 1. Resembles procedural programming. | 1. It resembles object oriented |
| We have some set of functions like | programming. |
| Flirting, going to movies together and | We first fix the candidate and |
| making long conversations on phone and | than try to implement functions |
| we try to fit all functions on candidate | on her. |
| we like. | Functions are added to supplement |
| the main program | |
| 2. Family system hangs as the hardware (parents)is | 2. Compatible with hardware(parents) |
| not supportive | |
| 3. You are the project leader and hence responsbile | 3. You are just a team member under |
| for the successful execution of the project. | project leader(parents) so they are responsible |
| Married Life. | for successful execution of project.Married Life. |
| 4. Client(Boy Parents) expectations includes spouse | 4. All this requirements are mentioned in the SRS |
| cooking food, washing clothes etc | itself |
| All this requirements are mentioned in the SRS | |
| 5. Love marriage is like windows, beautiful and seductive | 5. Arrange Marriage is like UNIX… |
| Yet not relaible and can crash anytime. | Boring and colorless, but is extremely reliable and |
| If crashes that’s the end. | robust.If crashes,easy to recover |
| 6. Testing is possible before implementation | 6. No testing direct implementation, cant revert |
| if bugs are found..:P | |
| 7. Antivirus(parents) is expired or uninstalled | 7. Antivirus(parents) protects the software( Wife) |
| from any virus which can affect the System(Family) |
Finally it was turn of the village school teacher, who was not considered a competition by anyone.
He raised the following points
There are cases where young couples leave their homes and flee evading villainous parents in their quest to find true love. There are cases when parents oversee their children married off to well-off families, thus assured of a comfortable and stable life.
What is marriage? An institution of love and trust or a settlement between two families?
Let find out grass is greener on which end ..
If we take the stand of Arranged Marriages following points creates the foundation for the same.
1. Looking back into human history, arranged marriages have predominated the times. Arrange marriages are the 'real marriages' unlike love marriages which is borne out of a whim or fancy. Our ancestors were wise and pious, and the experience of generations wouldn't stick to something unproductive.
2. Looking into the available statistics, we find that only a small number of arrange marriages end in divorces. As the initial fantasy period of marriage ends, the differences emerge. In love marriages, usually couples can't handle this phase in its seriousness, whereas arranged couples understand each other better.
3. Arrange marriages most often refrain from matching couples belonging to different societal status, or different caste/tribe/religion etc. The argument that the unification of two souls finds its source only in love is not a practical one. When made to return to reality, right from naming their child to the language and rituals performed at home to behavioral traits and thinking patterns, the differences accumulate which eventually ends sourly.
4. What culminates in love marriage is the bonding between two individuals to a level where they feel they shouldn't be separated from each other. An argument goes this way : "If he can fall for me, couldn't he fall for any other woman?". The seed of doubt and the sin of infidelity are so rampant in love marriages. Arranged marriages, on the other hand, has its root firmly based on reason and practicality without denying importance to mutual love.
5. Love marriages, in many cases, happen at an inoportune moment of the lives of the couples. There are cases, when couples have to run away leaving behind a good societal life. They gamble a respectful life for a life of fantasy. And when their children grow up, can they stop them from doing what they did themselves?
6. The parents have fed their children emotionally, physically and intellectually all these years. Marriage is an important decision in everyone's lives. Hence, parents should have a say in it. No parent would want their children to be in wrong hands.
Now if we consider Love marriages better than arranged Marriages following points support our opinion.
1. Marriage is an institution which demands love. No marriage is worth the effort and money if there is no love between the couple. Love is one of man's most important unheralded needs. And a life partner is one who is the source of this love for his/her entire life. Hence, love marriages is not only emotionally rewarding but also logical.
2. A conveyor belt is moving. Someone placed a stone, As it continues to move, the stone is enriched by sharpening, polishing, mixing, covering etc. and finally an end product is formed. Man's life is not a stone on a conveyor belt. You cannot "fix" or "match" two hearts unless they pull each other on their own.
3. The system of dowry is a part of this "arranged marriage ritual". There is no need to put forward the statistics of the number of women who have either been killed, molested or abused (physically and emotionally) by their in-laws for this reason. No matter how much research is put into forming the new family, there is always an artificiality to it. The plight of such women cuts a sad figure.
4. The practice of arranged marriage separates communities, helping to stop integration and encourage distrust between communities. This applies largely where it occurs among immigrant populations and helps to maintain a language barrier and an associated cultural ghettoisation.
Conclusion:
Marriage is not just a function or tradition but its more in to Understanding, Compromising, Forgiving, Respecting, Loving, Being together forever and always Be Connected.
No marriage, arranged or love, would be successful in the absence of love, trust and mutual understanding.
All the other factors are mere details in the portrait.
A soft answer, A listening ear, A forgiving & loving Heart, A mind which accepts our mistakes, An understanding Heart/Mind, will always keep the relationship alive in any situation.
Everyone was amazed to hear the points kept by the little Village School Teacher which were accurate and seemed like coming from an astute person.
Conclusion was bang on..!!!
Decision was taken by the other 4 artists, School Teacher was declared the winner.
I was finally happy so see talent was appreciated without any discrimination on lines of financial, or social status.
I had promised to give him the prize on the same day when I get mines from Indiblogger..:P
As I was a blogger so they also asked my views on it
I kept the below points-:
Marriage is a broad context but it is actually the individuals who decide the fate. It is very important for the individuals to understand the stakes involved and not behave like kids or immature people. Therefore anyone who is planning to get married. My suggestion is IT IS NOT LOVE OR ARRANGE WHICH NEEDS TO BE DECIDED. IT IS ACTUALLY ASKING THE QUESTION AM I READY FOR THIS COMMITMENT AND RESPONSIBILITY YET?and if there is any second thought then it is better to defer the plan of getting married till you are mentally ready.
This post is part of contest Love Marriage ya Arranged Marriage by Sony on Indiblogger.
Sunday, May 15, 2011
Best friends and wedding bells
When we left the clg everyone was excited about the new job...the cooperate world...money..etc
Each of us where all set to pack our bags and gear up for the companies we were recruited in..
We were busy partying,hanging out with our best friends...bidding goodbyes to those who were leaving with a promise to meet soon..
But now, after 8 months down the line everything has changed..you no more find them ready to do some masti..dhamal..
hanging out to new places..your bike beckons them but they are not ready to listen..
I think till now you might have guessed the centre of attraction..the protagonist of this blog..if not lemme reveal it..I am talking about the close to heart babes of our life..
They are your secrets warehouse..your gal next door finders..
they are your 2am friend...they are your best pals..
But things have changed now..they can hear thier wedding bells..
And now they wanna make you hear it loud and cheer for the same..i am not getting rude..its my duty to heartly congrate them and be happy for it..but if you go deep into my heart you can see the pain of losing a best friend who from now on is not going to be a part of your stupidities,your pranks,your life..:(
You will miss those party throwers who for any damn reasons were ready to party hard and that too from their pocket...:P
I am really gonna miss you Paridhi for that...just kidding..:)
Some of them were bindas babes...all vivacious and thilwai ustad..They were always ahead in innovating different pranks.
when you and your GF wanted privacy they were always ready to iritate and agitate you. even to the extent that you might wanna kill her for that..But thr presence always filled the air with livliness and thr absence makes every1 a dead soul..
I am really gonna miss Neha for making me fall into troubles of all sort..:P
i am gonna miss those hangouts at 56 with you dear..:(
Than comes those girlie gals which make you feel the presence of feminism in your group.They are those barbie dolls who need to be pampered all the time.They are soft and pretty.
As of now I think I wont miss no1 for that..
Fianlly comes that 1 who will always keep you in confusion and fuss.
She wont ever show that she too feels a spark for you.
If you wanna learn how to hide expressions better visit her.
And yes ,if by any chance you reveal a bit of your feelings she wont take you seriously and would tag you a flirt or might be also casanova.
She would excitedly tell you that "meri shaddi fix ho gayi hai" and would want you to remain appease. She will also blame you for not confessing your feelings before as if she was waiting for it from so long..
And the list ends now...
Itni jaldi shaddi mat karo yaar sab nahi to masti and dhamal karne ke liye no1 would be left..
Nwys all the very best for your life to all those who have got engaged..
well feeling nostalgic now..I stop here...
comments awaited..:)
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