Tuesday, May 21, 2013


By kj..


Raaho me uska chehra liye..
Har shaks dikhaai deta hai..
Mujhe to aajkal andhero me bhi..
“Uska” aks dikhaai detaa hai..

Shayad wo uski aankho ka jaadu thha..
Ya mithi baato ne kia mujhe kaayal..
Shayad wo uski adaae thhi..
Ya uski muskaan ne kia mujhe ghayal..

Kaano me har waqt uski baato ka..
Har lafz sunaai deta hai..
Mujhe to aajkal andhero me bhi..
“Uska” aks dikhaai detaa hai..

Naa jaane kitno se mila zindagi me magar..
Usi ka naam yaad rehta hai..
Zindagi ke khubsurat palo me bas..
Uske saath bitaaya wo sham yaad rehta hai..

Raaho me uska chehra liye..
Har shaks dikhaai deta hai..
Mujhe to aajkal andhero me bhi..
“Uska” aks dikhaai detaa hai..

Monday, May 20, 2013

Until Death Do Us Apart

This post is part of contest "Moral of The Story is.." on Indiblogger..

I and Palak were happily married for last 5 years.

We were in the same dance group of our college and fortunately partners.
Both of us were good dancers and had a great chemistry together.
Slowly how this dance steps also moved our heart beats, how this dance chemistry also spiced up the real chemistry of our life, we didn't realize.

I proposed her the very moment after our performance and she said yes..:)

She was a caring mother and loving wife. But last 6 months had changed my life drastically.
It was Rhea who came in my life and did the damage. She had stolen my heart which always used to beat for Palak. Now I was hers.

Rhea and I had fixed our date of marriage and it was time to tell Palak about it.
I decided to tell her everything on dinner.

When I reached home, she was sitting on the dinner table.
 I came closer to her and said, I have something to tell you.
She sat down and waited for me to start. I could see the pain in her eyes as if she knew what was coming.
Last 6 months were like hell for our relationship. We were never intimate, never kissed each other,
forget about having sex.

Suddenly I lost my tongue. I was not able to speak a word.
I wanted to let her know that I wanted divorce but didn't know how to open my mouth.
With all my power I raised the topic calmly.

She was not agitated by my words, instead she just asked me politely, Why?

I tried to overlook the question which made her furious. At once she picked a spoon and threw at me which struck right above my right eye. Are u crazy, I said. Her response was “Go to hell". We didn't talk for couple of days. She kept weeping the whole day. What was her fault, what wrong has happened to our marriage,was only what she wanted to know. I was in no position to tell her that I have lost my heart to Rhea and didn't love her anymore

Now there was nothing else than a divorce agreement which could convey my words to her. I drafted one which stated that my wife was the owner of our 2 bungalows, 1 farmhouse and 50% stake in my company.

Next day I gave it to her in the morning. She glanced at it and tore it to pieces.  Her eyes were like ocean full of pain and finally she cried badly in front of me. I was the one responsible for all those tears. Every tear had just one question why are u making me a stranger, throwing me out of your life, what’s my mistake?

When I came from office she gave me a page which had some points written on it.
She had agreed for a divorce but there were few conditions.
1. I have to give a month notice before divorce date.
2. For that month we will try to live a normal life as possible
I agreed to both of them but there was a one more.
After coming from office I will dance with her for half an hour on the same songs and music that we used to in our college days.`

I agreed to her crazy condition, though I was usually very tired after coming from office but it was just matter of a month and I wanted to end it peacefully.

When I came from office it was all set, the music, the ambiance everything for a perfect salsa.
It was salsa which had brought us together during the college days.
As the music started we took our pose and the salsa started.
Our daughter was so happy to see us dancing. She too got involved.
It was awkward for both of us to do salsa after so many years that too at this point of life.
It also involved lifts, stunts and aerial work, the moves that called for intimacy and chemistry.
First day we managed to finish it but with lot of clumsiness.

Next day it was a bit normal.
I managed to get the moves correctly. There were moments when I had a closer look at her.
There were signs of aging, dark spots and wrinkles.
5 years back when I practiced the same move she was a divine beauty, flawless and fresh.
Our marriage had a toll on her. She had faded and I didn't even have the time to look at her.

One week passed away and our sense of intimacy was growing again.
I was able to recall those old golden days, the most beautiful moments of my life.
But one thing that was striking my mind was her health. While doing the lifts and
aerial work I felt her to be much lighter and thinner. She had lost a lot of weight.

On our last day when our daughter went to sleep, I played the music.
With the first move I could feel her. At every step, on every lift she came closer to me.
The buried feelings, emotions and intimacy had finally erupted out.
At the end I held her tight in my arms and said, Will you be my salsa partner for life long.

She had tears in her eyes. It was the first time after 6 long months that we kissed each other, but not this passionately any time before.

Next day I drove my way to office and called Rhea in my cabin.
I told her that, I wanted my marriage to work and I still love Palak the same way I used to love her
5 years before.
I am really sorry but I don’t want this divorce.
Rhea was astonished. She gave me water and asked me if I was fine.
I told her that I was in my complete senses. The main thing which was missing in our marriage was
the value of each other, the charm, and the intimacy.
We have found that back and now only death can do us apart.

She slapped me hard. I knew this was coming.  She slammed the door and went away. I wasted no time and came back to home.

Today was a big day for me. I was going to propose her in the same way I did 5 years back.
Everything was set on the beach. A small white color four pillared tent which was embellished with heart shaped Lamps, 1 at each corner and a big red one in the middle. Inside the tent there was a beautiful table and 2 chairs decorated with flowers. The music was on.

Today I was going to do the best salsa I knew.

When I reached home she was dressed in the best attire she had. Suddenly she looked the most
beautiful woman I have ever seen in my life.
We drove to the beach area where I have done all the arrangements.
She was overwhelmed with joy after seeing it. Without wasting a single moment I played the music as it was time for some salsa baby.
It was our first lift and she collapsed in my arms. Suddenly the world came to a halt.
I couldn't feel her pulse. I was devastated.

“She is suffering from cancer from past few months. We can’t say anything till next 24 hours”, the
Doctor said. I was shocked. It was like there was no blood in my body.
In last few months I had noticed that her health was deteriorating but I ignored it as I was too busy in my life with Rhea. How selfish was I to ignore those warning signs. I was feeling guilty for what all has happened to her. It was all my fault.

She remained unconscious the next complete day. I prayed the whole day only to see her smile back.
It was around 4 a.m. in the morning when doctor came out and told me that she had come to her senses again but there is also a bad news. She won’t be able to become a mother again.
I was tore apart. She always said that we will have 2 children, a son and a daughter. From last 8 months she was telling me that I was the right time to have their 2nd child but the blind me ignored it completely.

When I went in I took her hand and cried like a child. She said she was fine and won’t trouble me more. I asked her, why she let all this happen to her.  Why did she ignore the signs?

She politely said, “From last 8 months every moment she was busy to make their marriage work.
There was no time in her life for herself, her body. Though sometimes she felt lot of pain and fatigue. But she ignored them as they had now become part of her life.
I hugged her tightly and thanked god for giving me my life back, my wonderful wife Palak.

Moral of the Story
There are 2 morals of this story

              Don’t ignore signs in form of drastic weight loss or body deterioration. You might think
        It’s normal because you are going through a bad phase as in this story it was bad marriage.
        But remember it can turn out to be something really worst.

        It’s not flashy gifts, bungalow or money that gives happiness in a relationship. It is those little
        things that you do for each other which build intimacy.

Wednesday, May 15, 2013

Modern Healthcare :Touching lives from Kashmir to Kanyakumari

Its a very renown saying that health is wealth.


If a person is healthy, fit and fine
He can enjoy life's every sun shine
Travel the world which is so divine
Without worrying about stomach , liver or intestine.

In today's world keeping oneself fit and healthy is the top most priority of every person.
People have become quite aware about the fatal diseases , their symptoms , prevention and cure, all thanks to the discoveries and findings of modern day healthcare that is available just a click away.

Some facts and figures about India
  • India has the largest number of medical colleges in the world
  • India produces among largest numbers of doctors in the developing world. These doctors are exported to many other countries, and are considered among the best in the world.
  • This country gets ‘Medical tourists’ from many developed countries reflecting the high standard of medical skill and expertise here. They seek care in its state-of-the-art, high-tech hospitals which compare with the best in the world.
  • Turning to medicines, this country is the fourth largest producer of drugs by volume in the world and is among the largest exporter of drugs in the world.
  • India has the largest private medical sector in the world.

Above facts just tell us one story which is "The Health Care system in India is booming at a rapid pace with most efficient manpower and latest technology."

The source for above mentioned facts is http://sanhati.com/excerpted/1759/.

Lets focus on what all changes have been brought up in the modern day health system

1. Better way of treatment and less sufferings
    Prior to the advent of modern health technology , physicians used to totally depend on the
    information gleaned from patient's narrative about their complaints and outward bodily signs to
    identify the disease. One wrong judgement could lead to severe consequences for the patient.
    The sufferings involved in the treatment was also on a higher scale.
    But the development of self regulating instruments, effective medicines , robotic machines that
    can even carry out surgeries has revolutionized the methods of treatment and minimized the level of
    sufferings involved.


    For Example the most advanced Cancer treatment options available, Novalis TX radiosurgery &
    radiotherapy has changed the face of  cancer treatment, and already helped thousands of people
    continue to go to work, spend time with family and friends and take part in their favorite activities,
     while fighting cancer.

2. Information just a click away
    The invention of internet has brought revolution in every field , with health care also one of them.
    All the discoveries ,findings, symptoms ,even treatments of many diseases are just a click away.
    The degree of awareness among people has increased manifold ,all thanks to internet.


3. Improved patient care and worker efficiency
    Modern Technology has made the patient care more reliable and safe.
    Today doctors use computers to record all the medical history of a patient and navigate
    through it whenever necessary. It not only saves time and improves efficiency but also helps
    doctor to check whether they are administering the correct treatment.

     Results of lab tests, records of vital signs and medicine orders can be stored in a database that can
     be referred later.
     Patients too have access to all the information which can help them understand the treatment
     they are given.

     With the availability of databases having large amount of information , the research work has also
      advanced resulting in major breakthroughs


4. Availability and Access to medical facilities
    24 * 7 availability and access to hospitals, doctors , ambulances and modern devices has helped in
    saving thousands of lives.


    If a heart patient has a fatal heart attack in Indore, he can be immediately transferred to AIIMS Delhi
    through helicopter with all vital facilities available in it.

5. Quick Organ Transplantation 
    In earlier times organ transplantation was a very difficult job because of the slow speed and
    old technology.
    There were problems of transplant rejection, during which the body has an immune response to the
     transplanted organ, possibly leading to transplant failure and immediate need to remove the organ
     otherwise which can also lead to death of the recipient in case of heart transplant.

     Today kidney,heart,lung ,intestine is a common thing. You just need to register your name at a
     hospital and soon they will come with a donor for you. There is a special unit which keeps a track
     of it. Hair and skin transplantation are also carried out widely to enhance the looks.

6.  Cosmetic Surgeries
     With increasing cases of acid attacks and burning , cosmetic surgeries have turn out to be a boon
      for the sufferers. They not only give you back your identity but also help to live a normal life in
      the society.

      For the high society it have been a status symbol.
      Breast enhancements , lips and nose corrections surgeries are quite common among

Now lets see how the modern day health care has changed lives of people

1. Immune Society
     Polio was one of the most dreaded disease of 20th century. It has crippled lives of many people
     especially children. They had to suffer from paralysis at such a young age and finally
     be a victim to a horrible death.
     Smallpox was once the most fatal endemic disease on earth which took away millions of life.
     Similarly Hepatitis A and B , rabies and measles fall under the same category.

     But today the scope and level of immunization has increased considerably.
     India has been removed from the list of polio endemic countries by WHO ,
     all thanks to the pulse polio campaign. Today no child has the fear to lose his life to polio even in the
     rural areas.
     Smallpox has been eradicated from the world itself.
     Similarly there are vaccinations available for many fatal diseases which has removed the fear
     and suffering from the life of people altogether.

2. Treatment within Budget
     There are many state funded charitable hospitals opened for the benefit of poor and needy.
     Free treatment , medicines and food are been provided to those who can't even afford a 2 day meal.
     Cure for fatal diseases like Tuberculosis are given at a very reasonable rate.
     One of the most successful step by government in this direction is the introduction of program
      called  "DOTS". In this health workers, community volunteers, traditional birth attendants
       monitor, record, supervise and cure TB patients with support of government.

    So today the complete savings of the family doesn't go into saving the life of a family member.
    People can easily afford the treatment of their disease along with the expenses of day to day living.
    Modern Day healthcare has made their life easy,comfortable and manageable.


3. Increase in life expectancy
    The life expectancy of people has increased impressively.

Today a person suffering from TB, Typhoid or even Cancer doesn't have a fear of losing his life
    and tension of his family whereabouts after him.
    He knows that his disease can be cured and he can get back to normal life.
    Modern Day healthcare has helped to build that determination, optimism and courage in a person
    suffering from a fatal disease.

4. Rehabilitation Programs
    The worst enemy of a person is his addiction. There are millions of cases where this addiction of
    alcohol, drugs,gambling,smoking etc has given big return gifts. Death or fatal disease to the
    addict and life long mourning for his family members.

     With coming of the Rehabilitation centers run by Trust and big Hospital there has been a
     drastic attempt in mitigating the overwhelming problem of addiction.

     Addiction take away everything from you; money , family and status.
     But these programs are helping people to control their craving and get back to normal life.
     Also they are not heavy on the pocket.
     So in all they are boon for the young generation specifically who get drifted apart so easily.


5. New Body New Soul
    Cosmetic surgeries and organ transplantation has not only given people new bodies or
    organs but also a new soul. After an acid attack or body burn the soul of sufferer dies.
    He/she losses hope of a getting back to a normal life, to become part of the society again.
    Self esteem and confidence is lost , dreams are shattered.
    But these modern day technology gives a new identity , a new hope to the patient
    to live again and start a new life.

6. Medical Tourism
    In this era of globalization  for a profit motivated global capital,exploiting opportunities in areas  
    having low price and high quality is a linked development. From a developing country's perspective,
    this might appear to be attractive to widen business opportunities as well to earn foreign
    At present the medical tourists we get in India, estimated at around 150,000 annually come on a
    voluntary basis and contribute an estimated $750 million annually to India's hospital and allied sector.

    So the rise of medical tourism provides an opportunity for people in India to use the services of
    highly skilled foreign doctors who are equipped with the latest technology in the business, in India
    itself that too at a lower cost than what they would had to pay outside the country.
    We can say that Medical tourism is a good initiative by Modern day healthcare system.


7. Health Insurance
    Insurance is the most important investment in today's world , be it life or health insurance.
    No health insurance means a hell lot of financial burden for an individual.

    Mediclaims acts as an umbrella for medical coverage during times of medical needs.
    It includes everything right from room charges, boarding expenses, nursing charges, ICU,
    operation theater charges , surgeon fees and the list is endless.

    And it is not only affordable but also has an advantage of tax rebate.
    So today life of a person in medical need and his family members has become so easy , all thanks
    to their Medical Insurance.  
     Best one I have come across is Apollomunich Insurance..:)

8. A boon for Disabled
    A person who is born physically disabled have a preconceived notion that he can never get on the
    same boat as that of the able people. He won't be treated and given same opportunities as people
    without disabilities. He lacks confidence and believes of getting discriminated.


    But the modern technology and equipments has made it possible for the handicapped person to live a
    normal man's life. He can walk, talk , jog, rock and roll in the same manner as an able man.

    Also for the mentally disabled there are centers who teach them basic living skills, how to integrate
    with family and society. There are different types of therapies and counselling given to the patient
    as well as his family.


9. A big relief for Health Workers
   Doctors are the most trusted breed in this world
   They have huge responsibilities on their shoulder.
   Even while sleeping they dream of life , birth and death, the 3 things they have to take care of.

   A doctor's job is the toughest job in this world. His main duty is to save lives and cure people,
   but with least levels of suffering bore by them. The advent of modern technology and equipment
   has been successful in reducing a rock sized burden from his shoulders.
   It has not only saved lives but also time and money.

   Today doctors are happy souls living in peace who enters an ICU with a smile to cure the patient
   and not with a frown to see a suffering fellow being. All thanks to modern day health care.


Lastly something about the leader 

With over 8500 beds across 54 hospitals within and outside India and a significant presence at every touch-point of the medical value chain, the Apollo Hospitals Group is one of the largest healthcare groups in Asia.

It is recognized as the "Architect of Healthcare" in India.
Several of the group's hospitals have been among the first in India to receive a form of international healthcare accreditation. It is the largest telemedicine provider in India with 71 centres.

Also it has been one of the pioneers of the technology revolution in healthcare.
It was the first to bring Novalis TX radiosurgery and radiotherapy which has changed the
face of cancer treatment.
Also it has established the Apollo Institute of Robotic Surgery in collaboration with the Vattikuti Foundation of Michigan, USA. This multi-specialty, multi-modality Institute will offer Robot Assisted Surgeries of world class standards at costs which are just a fraction of what is charged in hospitals in advanced nations.


So to sum up, we can say that India is a hub in the medical tourism map where the Apollo family touches and enriches lives every minute, every day.

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