Winning..finally explored

WIN  is one of the most powerful word in the dictionary.
Happiness, Excitement, Confidence, Success & Transient Satisfaction, are its close relatives.

Winning carries a different purpose and meaning to different people

Soldier - For a soldier winning is conquering the enemy fort and hosting the flag of his nation there.

Doctor - Defeating lethal diseases to save lives of people is what winning means for this class.

Athlete - Breaking the old ones and setting new records, grabbing the 1st place whenever there on the field
                is what defines winning for them.

Software Developers - Implementing codes which are bug free and gives a hard time to the tester is their
                                      way of winning battles.

Testers - Replacing angry birds by bugs and throwing them at developers to make their life hell is a WIN
                situation for them.

HouseWife - When someone says, Shelaji, your home is so clean, your children are so Sanskari and your
                       husband is so loving , it fulfills her definition of winning.

Politician - The number of times Aam Aadmi gets fooled by this specie defines their winning rate.

Journalist - Bringing the news fastest defines their winning graph.

Manager - Brainwashing people so that they work in the favor of the company and against their own
                   defines his WIN position.


But when I contemplated more and went into profound levels , Winning carried a more deeper meaning to every individual in this world including me.

So I could categorize the scope of my WIN-WIN condition as below

1.Self  -
When my goals are achieved, dreams come true I can say I am winning.
Success & Happiness always accompany me in whatever I do makes me feel I am winning.
When the top position is always reserved for me & there is a race among people to know me better
gives me surety of Winning state.
If the bad me is becoming opaque and the good me is becoming brighter with each day passing, I can proudly say that I am Winning.

2.WE  -
"We" includes all my near and dear ones with whom I can share the winning seat.
Whenever they win the feeling is mutual.

3.Society  -
If members of a society enjoy rights and follow their duties.
There is no Communalism, Capitalism  & division among people on basis of color, region & money.
It is a secure place to live for men, women and others then I will proudly say I am winning.

4.Country  -
Corruption, Poverty, Illiteracy & Unemployment finds no place in my country.
Socially, Economically & Culturally my country stands tall in this world.
Be it Sports or War, we play a fair game , then I can happily say I am winning with my country.

5. World -
If there is peace and equality in this world then in true sense every individual in this world is winning.


Never lose hope, never be depressed , never feel weak and lost.
Because at every moment , you are winning with someone, for someone..:)



This post is part of WINNING for India Today Conclave 2014 contest on Indiblogger

All that matters to me...

Today the world is full of advisers, experts and counselors who guide millions of people on what to do, how to do and when do to based on their experience and learning. 
Now think how many of these millions go on to become a CEO or world leader, unfortunately none.
The reason is simple, until you have not felt the complexity of a problem you can’t come up with an optimum solution. A solution that worked for me might not work for you. 

A person who takes his own decisions and shapes one’s own path is likely to be more successful than a person who follows others footsteps.

Biker group, those bullets passing by, their sound and the people in leather jackets are a delight to watch, but until you are not one of them riding your own bullet, you can’t experience the thrill, adventure and joy which lies inside.

Every day you watch the share market go for a roller coaster ride. One day it falls sharply and the other day it shoots up like a bomb from cannon. You love to watch Patel bhai and Jain sahab jump in air when there is a bull run. But the real excitement and joy lies in watching your own bucks getting doubled and feeling the pain of losing it when the bears take control.

Talking about myself

When I was in school preparing for IIT, those complex probability questions used to screw my mind.
I always jumped to the solution first and then tried to understand the question. Though I was able to solve 25 questions in a day but did it really help me understand and conquer probability, not at all.
 The reason was simple, I had never tried to ponder on the question and solve it on my own before going to the solution.

When I was in college there were assignments given by professors. A small chunk of students used to do it by them and rest of us just copied it. At that time I couldn't understand the difference it would make, but at the last day of the college it was pretty clear.

Only 10% of the doers got into India MNC, rest all had wings to fly high.

But if we talk about the copy paste experts,  only 10% of us could make it to the higher league, while rest of us were just a part of the huge huge crowd.

I got placed in an Indian MNC, but my attitude remained the same.
If there is an issue, ask the seniors first, take the ready made solution from them, copy paste and mail it. There were people who tried to dig deep to find the best solution, even if they had to stay in office for 12 hours. I just mocked at their pathetic life.

As days passed I started liking a girl in my office. In college days I had 2 flings, so I was sure of knowing all the tricks in the book. But this girl gave me a rough time. Her audacious replies and a straight forward no tore my heart apart. Seeing myself fail I asked people to provide me some tips and tricks to impress her but none worked. Now I could experience the pain, the pain I have given to those gals whom I dumped in college. 

The girl of my dreams got selected in IIM, shattering mines to build her own.
Before leaving she said only one thing, for loving someone first you need to experience love by yourself.

My girl was gone. The people whom I mocked got onsite opportunities because of their innovative solutions and business understandings. My friends got into top B schools. I was the only one left behind doing nothing. This was the first time when I become serious in my life.


From that day I made a promise to leave behind copy paste technique and start to experience things by myself.
God also help those who help themselves and not those who are dependent on other’s help.
If people do things the same way others did it, there will be no scope for inventions, innovations and out of box thinking.
My father once told me that I don’t value money because I haven’t burned my sweat and blood to earn it. The day I will experience the sentiments associated, I will start valuing it and man it’s so damn true.

Today I have set my goals
1. I will experience how it feels to be in true love with someone.
2. I will give my 100% dedication, focus and determination needed to get into one of the top B schools of India, Indian School of Business.
3. I will set my own standards and continuously improve them based on my own experiences and learning.

Now all that matter to me is at the age of 40 when my children start taking decisions and understand things I can show them my Organization and tell them proudly that this is outcome of my own experiences.
At the age of 60 when I am with my grandchildren I can proudly show them my book on “Live life on your own experiences” and explain them the importance of it.
And finally when I die, I will be a proud human being who has made his own choices, took his own decisions, set his own path and achieved something on his own.

This post is written as a part of  All That Matters Contest at BlogAdda.com in association with
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Every Success story is also a story of great Failure

Failure is the highway to success. Tom Watson Sr. said, If you want to succeed, 

double your failure rate.

If you study history, you will find that all stories of success are also stories of great failures. 

But people don't see the failures.

They only see one side of the picture and they say that person got lucky 

"He must have been at the right place at the right time".

Let me share life history of some people with you. 

This was a man who failed in business at the age of 21 ; was defeated in a 

legislative race at age 22; failed again in business at age 24; overcame the 

death of his sweetheart at age 26; had a nervous breakdown at age 27;

 lost a congressional race at age 34; lost a senatorial race at age 45;

 failed in an effort to become vice-president at age 47; 

lost a senatorial race at age 49; and was elected president of the United States at age 52.

This man was Abraham Lincoln.

Would you call him a failure? He could have quit.

 But to Lincoln, defeat was a detour and not a dead end.

In 1913, Lee De Forest, inventor of the triodes tube, was charged by the district attorney 

for using fraudulent means to mislead the public into buying stocks of

his company by claiming that he could transmit the human voice across the Atlantic.

He was publicly humiliated.

Can you imagine where we would be without his invention?

A New York Times editorial on December 10, 1903, questioned the wisdom of the 

Wright Brothers who were trying to invent a machine, heavier than air, that would fly. 

One week later, at Kitty Hawk, the Wright Brothers took their famous flight.

Colonel Sanders, at age 65, with a beat-up car and a $100 check from Social 

Security, realized he had to do something. He remembered his mothers recipe and 

went out selling. How many doors did he have to knock on before he got his first order?

 It is estimated that he had knocked on more than a thousand doors before he got his first order. 

How many of us quit after three tries, five tries, ten tries, and then we 

say we tried as hard as we could.

As a young cartoonist, Walt Disney faced many rejections from newspaper editors, 

who said he had no talent. 

One day a minister at a church hired him to draw some cartoons. 

Disney was working out of a small mouse infested shed near the church. After seeing a small mouse, he was inspired. That was the start of Mickey Mouse.

Successful people don't do great things, they only do small things in a 

great way.

One day a partially deaf four year old kid came home with a note in his pocket 

from his teacher,Your Tommy is too stupid to learn, get him out of the school.

His mother read the note and answered, My Tommy is not stupid to learn, I will 

teach him myself. And that Tommy grew up to be the great Thomas Edison. 

Thomas Edison had only three months of formal schooling and he was partially deaf.     

Henry Ford forgot to put the reverse gear in the first car he made.

Do you consider these people failures? They succeeded in spite of problems, not 

in the absence of them. 

But to the outside world, it appears as though they just got lucky.

                   

All success stories are stories of great failures. The only difference is that

every time they failed, they bounced back. This is called failing forward, rather than backward. 

You learn and move forward. Learn from your failure and keep moving.