Saturday, May 17, 2014

MyRoleModel My Dad

He is the person who inspires you
He is the one whom you aspire to be
His life is a book full of chapters
Each one of which is an experience in it
He has struggled , failed and been neglected
But every time he has come out hard,
confronted the obstacles and conquered.

For me he is my father, my guide, my teacher , my role model.
What do we except from a child who is studying in school with a dream of becoming a doctor.
Well for me its just to focus on your studies and do well in all your exams.
But for the man I am talking about, it was not the case.
He had to go to school, post school study for the medical entrance exam and then get back home to cook food for everyone. The reason was really heart wrecking. His mom used to remain ill and sometimes her situation was so bad that she could not even move from her bed.
His dad was a school teacher and used to be busy with his school routines.
One of his elder brother was studying in IIT and the younger one was just interested in roaming around, so the complete responsibility was on him.
Clearing a medical entrance exam with so much responsibility of home was really a daunting task.

Sheer dedication and diligence made him clear it with flying colors. While studying in medical college he lost his mother. It was really difficult to control the sentiments and carry on with his dream but he kept his nerves.
Another responsibility came on his shoulder when he was still studying in medical college, he got married.

When you don't have a mother, you always look forward to your sister-in-laws for that support and care.
But sometimes your good fortune or say good time goes on a long vacation or gets inspired from Kubhkaran and same was my father's case.
Study tension, responsibility toward your wife to make her feel comfortable in her new abode and the baap of all tensions,family tension is too much to endure for a 25 years old boy.
But a man with sheer mental strength, rock solid will power and a very pious heart was ready to face it.
This time luck favored him as my mom was really understanding and stood beside him whenever needed.

There were tantrums, accusations and fights every day. It was really difficult to live in such environment so my parents had to move in a rented house. My father was still doing his MD and getting a stipend of not more than 7-8k. No help was provided by his father, not even of a single penny.

Just in few months he had his last medical exams but something unusual and unfortunate happened.
There was always one student who has to be failed not depending on his performance but his skill of buttering. My dad seriously lacked the much imp skill of buttering and was declared failed.
You can understand the sentiments of a person who has done everything right just to be proved wrong.
Seniors told not to get into fight with the professor because it will call for more trouble and she will make sure that you don't get passed next year too.
My father kept his calm and tried to persuade her, not making her realize that she was wrong and he was right but making her understand the situation he was in, but she gave a damn.

Many people try the easier way of committing suicide when they are neglected by their family and failed in their exams without a reason. But my father was not in this world to give up so easily. He pushed himself for one more year, stayed focused and finally became a doctor.

If I go on to mention how much he has sacrificed for his family, mainly his children to ensure them a bright future will require another 5 pages so won't go into those details.

But I will proudly mention that,
A man who didn't had a single penny in the starting has not only built his own shelter but also ensured Bunglows for his children. A successful doctor and a man with principles is how he is known in Indore. In the whole family, be it paternal or maternal side, he is know for his pious heart, a man without any ego, always ready to forgive and welcome back with open arms.

Whenever I confronted the 4 D's
1. Dishearten
2. Disappointed
3. Disgusted
4. Disapproved
He was the one who gave me the energy to fight back , the never give up spirit.
His life inspires me to follow my dreams, to forgive others, value money and confront every obstacle with a calm mind & smiling face. I owe him a lot and hope to make him proud in every way possible.

My Dad my RoleModel...:)

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